Monday, December 31, 2012

Finishing out 2012

It's been so long!  As I made you all aware in my last post, I was just getting sick and it was two days before Christmas, and that's where we left off.  I did get the flu, and haven't been that sick in years, which is really saying something.  Most of our Christmas plans got scrapped.  Sorry friends and neighbors!  Thanks to those who kindly stopped by our place, though, like the Ohran's, Kraus's and our secret Elves.  It was really and truly appreciated!!!

As for sick people, we're pretty sure Sam's eardrum burst, as he was leaking fluid out of his ear for days, and luckily, thanks to the antibiotics is doing fine now.  But that kid is amazing.  He never made a peep, just laid there for days, and he had two extremely bad ear infections, we found out later.  I felt awful for not taking him in sooner!  Our whole Christmas break seemed to be laying around (everyone was at some stage of illness), or visiting doctors.  Fun.

As an aside, score one for Pat and flu shots.  This year he's the only one who got one, and he's the only one who didn't get sick.  I don't believe in flu shots because one year he and all the kids got one, and not only did the kids get sick from the shot (mild, but annoying), but he and the kids all got the flu that year and I didn't.   Now we're even.  I am not so opposed to the flu shot anymore. (Update: Nevermind, I just read this: The vaccine, he pointed out, contains formaldehyde and thimerosal – an organic compound containing mercury, which impairs the neurological and immune systems – along with detergents, antibiotics and allergens that cause infertility.

D's birthday gift from Grandmama and Papi.  It's like a little lego guy with lights on his feet that you can point where you like and obviously, wear on your head.  He loves it.
I tried to make Pat cancel Christmas, but he thought not.  So he made the entire dinner (which no one really cared about, but he wanted to do it), not including desserts.  We didn't do a single dessert- which is fine.  He wrapped the gifts, and I tried to help, but he gave me one simple job involving tape, and I cried.  It took so much effort just to try to peel off a tiny piece of tape.  My body ached down to my toes, I could barely breathe, and was coughing so hard my ribs felt like they would crack.  Then in the morning, I was awake long enough to see them open presents, but couldn't enjoy them with the kids or enjoy the day.  Just tossed and turned in a feverish un-sleep.  But I knew enough to know that they were happy, and that was happy.

And, all that said, it actually turned out to be a really nice Christmas.  The kids got busy gifts as I like to call them: science kits, books, games, recorders to learn how to play, etc.  And they really were busy for days working on puzzles and learning how to use their stuff.  Of course, having Pat there, he was able to do everything with them, and I was so grateful for that!!!! 

Grandma sent us a box with popcorn in it!!!
The kids didn't seem to miss not getting Lego's, swords, video games, or other big ticket items.  I mean, maybe they missed it, but... no complaints.  I have terrific kids.  Sam and Dallas did a great job of buying something for everyone with their own money, and were really sweethearts.  I now own a beautiful necklace that says Mother on it, shaped like a heart.  They even remembered Bella.  They got her a ball on a rope, and Bella, being the bright energetic dog that she is, went back to sleep.  I have since seen Sam prying open her mouth to put the rope in, hoping she'll get the idea.

Evan wearing the new winter clothes from Aunt Steph.  Those are gorilla slippers!
I am thankful for family far away that sent gifts and remembered the kids.  It really makes a huge difference to have help caring for the kids, and to know that we aren't forgotten.

My first time out into society after being sick, was church and then the youth New Years dance the next day.  It was exhausting.  We had to go in the morning to decorate for 3 hours, and then at night.   At almost 1am, I just finally had to leave.  I should have stayed at least another hour to clean up, but with all me and the baby had been through being sick, I was done, and worried about the long, snowy drive home.  

I am now down to a little more than 6 weeks until I deliver.  And guess what I just found out today?!  I have gestational diabetes!  I think this is going to involve poking myself often.  Yea!  I can't get enough of that. At my last ultrasound they said the baby's abdomen was bigger than normal, an indication of gestational diabetes, so I went right away for the multi-hour/multi-poke test.  It's only been frustrating waiting a week for them to call with results.  We'll see what they say about diet.  Also the baby is breech, and still has time to turn, but time's kinda running out.  Am I going to end up having a c-section?  Only time will tell.  Please turn baby boy!

We quit 4-H, and I cannot tell you the degree of guilt I feel about disappointing so many people, but I also feel like it's the right thing to do for us currently.   They decided to do dues this year, and even though it's only $10 a kid, and a bit for Pat, we just really can't afford it.  We have too many good things that keep us a bit too busy and need to cut back.  But then again I look at friends of mine and their families and they seem to be able to do more, and I feel like a loser.  Oh well.  Everyone's different.

I don't actually have this book, so I can't recommend it for sure.  I just listen to him on the radio.
I have been listening to this guy Dave Ramsey on the radio, and he's all about getting out of debt- living like no one else (eating rice and beans if you must) so you can live like no one else (being free of debt).  Pat has a 12 year plan, but I think I'd rather suffer more, and be free sooner.  I think?  I wish I could go back in time and not get as many school loans for his master's degree, and make a wiser home purchase.  But what can you do now?   I cannot believe how much this Ramsey guy has opened up my mind, and I just wish someone had taught me this stuff before!!  Plus he's a Christian and brings that side of it into the discussion- our stewardship over all that God has given us.  There's no going back in time for us, but you'd better believe my kids will at least be taught, and have the option of knowing the alternatives to living life like everyone else.  

I had this friend, when I worked at Sutter Memorial in Sacramento, who was from Romania- an older man, working as a janitor/engineer who loved me like a daughter and I him like a father.  He would always visit with me in his broken English.  He amazed me at how well he did, and how kind he was.  Pat and I even visited him in his home after we were married.  When his son got married, my friend bought him a house!!  Cash.  Then his son could save up all his life to give the same gift to his children.  That's how he taught his children to live.  Maybe extreme, but no paying interest to other people your whole life?  No being a slave to the government or banks or bill collectors.  Same with cars, he just saved up and payed cash.  I think it comes from growing up under socialism- he was free now and didn't want anything to take away from that.  It's like when you sin, you feel like you are more free, but really you are bound by the consequences of your decisions.  Same with money.  Maybe it sucks to live within your means, but at least you are free.  Truly free.  Nobody else owns you or can manipulate you.  And to those who are good stewards of the money God has given you, will be given and trusted with more.  Bishop Shepherd said that if he could give a million dollars to every person in the ward, after a while, the same people who are in trouble with money now, would be in trouble again, and vice-versa. 

So I hope to do better this year.  But even with Pat's raise, we will take home less because of taxes going up.  Do you know how depressed I was when Pat told me that?  It's bad enough that a dollar buys less and less...   

Anyway, there's a lot of stuff up in the air- a lot of things in life that are changing for us, a lot of who knows?   And Evan just got glasses!  Turns out he really can't see that well, poor guy.  I guess he can switch to contacts when he's older, and then have surgery when he's ready and probably be fine.  For now he's getting used to it, and feeling embarrassed and sad.

He refuses to take a picture with his glasses, poor guy.
We got rid of Netflicks so we can read books rather than watch TV.  The kids feverishly finished The Avengers before we got rid of Netflicks- it was funny.  By the way, they did, in fact, finish a years worth of math already, and so now we're starting our second year!!!  Yea boys!!!

This is Sam with his freaky slippers and a book he got.  We got a lot of books!
By the way, D, S, and E have turned into super cleaners and are doing a wonderful job of keeping a lot of the house clean for us, and just being very responsible and trustworthy.  Also Leia is hanging in there with the potty training!  We still can't get a number 2 actually in the toilet, but hopefully soon.  She has decided she REALLY loves me, and constantly comes up to me, lays her head on me and says, "MOM!  I love you", with a lot of feeling.  Although it sounds like, "I of oooo."  She was in the bathroom the other day, and I sat in there with her for over an hour and a half trying to get her to go.  I didn't want to give up, because as soon as we leave, she makes a mess, so I refused to let us be done.  But there's only so much sitting on the tub a mom can take.  Only so many books to read.  By the end I was dramatically laying on the wall, fake crying, pleading, "Just go potty!!", and she laughed at it all, and interjected, "Mom, I of ooo!", here and there as sweet as honey.  She is such a funny girl.

Lei-lei got pretty princess stuff.  What else?  This girl is so funny- I wish you could have heard her freaking out over her gifts.  Aunt Steph got her a new dress and she nearly fell over dead with rapture.  She breathes all funny and squeaks!


Marcy said...

Gestational diabetes isn't that bad! I had it with Spencer from about 20 weeks on and this time around I've been dealing with it sinced I was about 8 weeks pregnant. It's a lot of finger sticking but changing your diet and exercising makes it manageable. I've only got 11 days to go! If I can deal with the gd and survive than you can too. Hang in there!

Karisa said...

Marcy- I don't have your email address, so I responded to you on your blog with my address.

I can't believe you're so close!!!! Thanks for the kind words and encouragement. So far it hasn't been so bad.